Couples Repair: Stop Reliving Your Childhood in Your Relationship
For committed couples who love each other but can't stop the same fights, shutdowns, or distance—and are ready to repair the blueprint underneath it.
If you've tried talking, staying calm, being nicer, threatening to leave, or pretending it's "not that bad," and you still end up in the same painful place, this is your path. Here, we don't blame either partner. We map and heal the emotional blueprints that are running both of you.
The Process
Worst Day Cycle
Emotional Authenticity
Authentic Self Cycle
Kenny's Message
You're Not Each Other's Enemy. Your Blueprints Are.
Most couples who end up here aren't failing at love. They're just exhausted from having the same fight over and over, no matter what the topic is.
You might recognize your relationship in some of this:
- Arguments that start over something small (tone, text, dishes, kids, money) and somehow turn into the same big fight
- One of you chasing, explaining, and pushing for resolution, while the other gets defensive, shuts down, or walks away
- Feeling like roommates, business partners, or co-parents—while starving for emotional connection
- Walking on eggshells to keep the peace, or bracing for the next explosion or silent treatment
- Having tried therapy, communication tools, retreats, faith-based work, or "just be nicer"… and still ending up in the same place
If that sounds familiar, this isn't because you picked the wrong person. It's because both of your emotional blueprints are running the relationship. Couples Repair is where we start changing that.
What Couples Repair Is Really About
You don't just want to "fight better." You want a relationship that actually feels safe, honest, and connected—where hard conversations don't turn into war or withdrawal, and where you can be fully yourselves without losing each other.
Couples Repair is where you stop organizing your relationship around not being abandoned, not being controlled, not being blamed, not being the problem… and start organizing it around emotional safety, truth, and repair for both of you.
We do that by going to the source: the emotional blueprints each of you wrote in childhood about love, conflict, and safety—the same blueprints that now collide in your "signature fight." When you both see those clearly and begin to heal them, you stop reenacting your parents' relationship and start building your own.
Through this path, you will:
- Name the roles you both play in conflict (pursuer, distancer, fixer, peacemaker, exploder, etc.)
- See how your histories and blueprints hook together in the same painful cycle
- Learn Emotional Authenticity tools to stay in hard conversations without exploding, shutting down, or attacking each other's character
- Practice simple repair steps that rebuild safety, trust, and real emotional connection
From there, you choose the level of support that fits what you need right now—a starter class, a deep dive into your fight patterns, a full repair and reconnection journey, or direct work with me together.
How the Couples Repair Path Works
Choose the starting point that fits where your relationship is today.
Start Here
Couples Emotional Freedom Assessment
For couples in high pain, high stakes, or complex situations who need direct support.
If your relationship feels fragile, urgent, or stuck—and you want someone to sit with both of you, decode what's happening, and outline a clear path forward—you can work with me directly as a couple. This is the fastest way to get clarity on your patterns and a personalized path to repair.
What you'll get:
- A focused 1:1 session with both of you where we map your emotional blueprints live
- See exactly how your rules about love, safety, and conflict collide in your signature fights
- Before the session, you'll both receive a comprehensive relationship assessment form by email, so you can share your stories, history, and patterns in depth
- I review your forms in advance so our time together is not "intake," but real work
- Leave with a clear understanding of what needs to change first to shift the dynamic
- Get honest recommendations on whether the class, the hybrid program, or ongoing coaching is the right next step
Ongoing Support
Couples Private Coaching – Single Session
For continued guidance after your Assessment or for couples ready for deeper work.
- For couples who want continued guidance implementing Emotional Authenticity in real time
- We work through your actual conversations, triggers, and decisions as they come up
- Ideal as a follow-up to the Assessment or alongside the Relationship Repair & Reconnection Method
Best Value
Couples Private Coaching – 10-Session Package
For couples who know they want a consistent, structured container and are ready to fully commit together.
- Pre-purchase 10 couples coaching sessions for $3,500
- Receive 1 additional session free (11 total) as a commitment bonus
- Best for couples ready for deep, sustained transformation work together
Advanced Program
Emotional Authenticity – The Relationship Repair & Reconnection Method
For committed couples ready to rebuild safety, trust, and connection—not just understand the problem.
This hybrid program is for couples who are ready to do the work, together. You'll move beyond insight into guided, structured practice—learning how to fight, repair, and reconnect in a completely different way.
What you'll work on:
- Interrupting your Worst Day Cycles in real time—during actual conflict and stressful moments
- Rebuilding emotional safety so both partners can share honestly without being punished or dismissed
- Learning how to move from blame and defense into authorship and responsibility, on each side of the net
- Practicing conversations, boundaries, and repairs inside a clear, compassionate framework
Self-Paced Course
Why We Can't Stop Hurting Each Other
Understanding the blueprint behind every fight.
This class is your deep dive into why the same argument keeps happening—even when the topic changes—and why both of you end up feeling so misunderstood and hurt. It gives you a shared language and framework for what's actually happening between you.
What you'll get:
- A clear breakdown of the pursuer / distancer dynamic and how it shows up in your fights
- How your two Worst Day Cycles™ hook into each other and keep pulling you into the same pattern
- Why so many "good talks," apologies, and promises still circle back to the same unresolved pain
- Practical Emotional Authenticity tools to pause the cycle in real time and move toward repair instead of shutdown or blow-ups
90-Minute Mini-Course
Why High Achievers Fail at Love
For successful people whose control strategies backfire in intimacy.
You can run a company, close a deal, or manage a crisis — but one hard conversation with your partner breaks you. This mini-course shows you why the skills that made you successful are the same ones sabotaging your relationship.
What you'll learn:
- Why your control strategies backfire in intimacy
- How childhood emotional blueprints hijack your relationships
- The emotional skills logic doesn't give you
90-Minute Mini-Course
The Avoidant Partner And The One Who Loves Them
For shutdown/avoidant partners and those who love them.
If you're the one who pulls away, goes numb, or shuts down when things get emotional—or you're the partner aching for closeness with someone who does—this mini-course is for you both. Learn why you shut down and how to change without losing yourself.
What you'll learn:
- Understand avoidant attachment patterns
- Map your shutdown pattern and its childhood origins
- Stay present without being swallowed
Starter Option
Relationship Emotional Blueprint Map – For Your Relationship
For when you're serious about change but want a smaller first step together.
This shorter class helps you map one signature fight using the Emotional Authenticity method—so you can see how each partner's blueprint is shaping the conflict, and decide if this approach fits you both before stepping into deeper work.
What's inside:
- A simple explanation of emotional blueprints for couples—how each of you learned what love and conflict mean
- A guided walkthrough of mapping your most common fight back to its emotional origins
- A downloadable Relationship Emotional Blueprint Map workbook you can use on other conflicts
- Clear next steps so you know whether the relationship class, the hybrid program, or a Couples Assessment is right for you
Why Emotional Authenticity Works When Other Relationship Tools Haven't
If you're here, you've probably already tried a lot for your relationship—therapy, communication strategies, date nights, faith-based work, maybe even "rules" from books or retreats.
Most of those focused on:
- saying things the "right" way,
- staying calm and regulated, or
- compromising more.
Emotional Authenticity starts earlier in the chain.
It focuses on:
- the emotional blueprints each of you wrote in childhood,
- the Worst Day Cycles™ that keep reenacting themselves between you, and
- the shame and fear stories that convince you your partner is the enemy—or that you are.
We don't just give you better communication tips. We change the rules both of your nervous systems have been following in love.
Prefer to Learn More Before You Decide?
If one or both of you like to understand the ideas more deeply before committing to a path, you can explore more of my work together or on your own:
Books
Your Journey to Success – my book on how the Worst Day Cycle shapes your life and relationships, and how to begin changing it.
Your Journey to Being Yourself – a deeper look at Emotional Authenticity and returning to your Authentic Self, which transforms every relationship you're in.
Explore Kenny's BooksYouTube & Video Library
Watch full-length teachings on emotional blueprints, conflict patterns, and relationship repair.
Watch on YouTubePodcast
If you prefer to listen, you can follow the podcast for ongoing stories, teachings, and conversations that bring this work to life in real relationships.
Listen to the Podcast
You Don't Have to Keep Hurting Each Other the Same Way
You've spent a lot of time and energy trying to fix this—by arguing, avoiding, trying harder, or hoping it would just "settle down."
You're not each other's enemy. You're two trauma-trained nervous systems following old blueprints.
Those blueprints can be seen. They can be healed. And your relationship can feel different.