The Avoidant Partner
And The One Who Loves Them
Understand your shutdown, honor your survival, and learn a new way to stay.
If you're the one who pulls away, goes numb, or shuts down when things get emotional—or you're the partner aching for closeness with someone who does—this mini-course is for you both.
Your shutdown isn't a defect. It's a survival strategy.
Learn to be close without being engulfed.
The Process
Worst Day Cycle
Emotional Authenticity
Authentic Self Cycle
Kenny's Message
Does This Sound Like You (or Your Partner)?
You might be the shutdown / avoidant / emotionally unavailable partner if:
Or maybe you're on the other side:
Your avoidant partner shuts down in conflict
Your emotionally unavailable partner goes cold when you share feelings
You feel abandoned and "too much" while they look calm and "fine"
This course is built for both of you: the love-avoidant partner and the one stuck in the dance with them.
Most Relationship Advice
Treats You Like a Problem to Fix
"Just communicate more"
"Use I-statements"
"Stop stonewalling"
If that worked, you wouldn't be here.
Here's the truth:
You shut down because, as a child, closeness wasn't safe.
If you grew up emotionally absorbing a parent's pain, enmeshed with no boundaries, being the "strong one," or used as the emotional adult—
Then closeness didn't feel loving. It felt like being smothered, consumed, and used.
So your nervous system created a protection strategy:
"If I get close, I disappear."
"If I need anything, they'll use it against me."
"If I let you inside, I'll end up taking care of your feelings."
It's not your personality. It's your protection system.
WHAT YOU WILL LEARN
(Understanding Your Shutdown)
Worst Day Cycle
Emotional Authenticity
Authentic Self Cycle
Understanding Why
Learning How
This is not tips and tricks.
This is understanding and changing your protection system.
WHAT THIS COURSE GIVES YOU
WHO THIS COURSE IS FOR
The Trauma-Informed
Safety & Support Guarantee
You Will Never Be Shamed, Rushed, or Made Wrong
This program was created for people who shut down, withdraw, and feel overwhelmed by emotional closeness.
You are not broken.
You are not "too cold."
You are protecting yourself.
And now you're learning a new way.
You Can Go at Your Own Pace
Work at your own pace. Rewatch lessons as needed. Your nervous system sets the timeline.
No forcing vulnerability. No contact pressure.
You Are Safe to Be Honest Here
You will hear the truth. You will be challenged.
But you will not be shamed.