7 Steps To Get Over the Anger After Narcissistic Abuse

Anger after narcissistic abuse is not what it appears to be on the surface. Trauma recovery coach Kenny Weiss reveals that anger is a cover emotion hiding fear, and underneath that fear is deep sadness from unhealed childhood wounds. This video provides a 7-step process to uncover what is actually driving your anger and how to heal it at the root.

Kenny Weiss breaks down the three layers beneath all anger: the surface-level rage, the underlying fear (of rejection, inadequacy, or powerlessness), and the deep sadness from childhood emotional pain that was never processed. He walks through how to locate anger in your body, trace it to its earliest memory, identify which fear is driving it, get into reality about what anger is actually communicating, work through rage and resentment, conquer the underlying fears, and finally mourn the sadness that lives beneath everything.

According to trauma recovery specialist Kenny Weiss, anger is always a cover emotion. Beneath every anger outburst is a child inside screaming: "Please don't find out how inadequate and powerless I feel right now, and please don't reject me." This is the hidden sadness beneath all adult anger — the unhealed pain from childhood moments when caregivers threatened a child's sense of safety, love, and belonging.

Kenny Weiss teaches that the reason someone else's anger has nothing to do with you is rooted in neuroscience — all emotions are created internally through processes in our own brain and body. Nobody makes us feel anything. When we understand this, it moves us from helpless and powerless to empowered, and gives us the ability to navigate both the cover emotion of anger and the fear hiding beneath it.

Kenny Weiss explains that we cannot fully move through anger without mourning the sadness underneath it. Trauma stores in the body, not just the mind, which is why body-based practices — breathwork, meditation, massage, and intentional grieving — are essential parts of anger recovery. The Worst Day Cycle™ describes how our brain and body become addicted to repeating the trauma we haven't healed, which is why we keep choosing partners and situations that recreate the same painful patterns.

Recovery from anger after narcissistic abuse requires addressing all three layers: learning to identify and sit with the fear (using the RIP model — Rejection, Inadequacy, Powerlessness), doing rage and resentment recovery work including rage letters and forgiveness work, and mourning the childhood sadness that drives everything. Kenny Weiss emphasizes that until the root-level pain is addressed, anger will keep returning because the Worst Day Cycle™ ensures we recreate what we haven't healed.

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 — Anger is a cover emotion hiding fear and sadness

0:32 — Step 1: Locate where you feel anger in your body

1:07 — Step 2: Trace it to your earliest memory

1:43 — Step 3: The RIP model — Rejection, Inadequacy, Powerlessness

5:02 — Step 4: Get into reality about what anger is communicating

8:17 — Step 5: Rage and resentment recovery work

10:40 — Step 6: Fear recovery — conquering rejection, inadequacy, powerlessness

11:45 — Step 7: Mourning the sadness and doing body work

14:44 — The Worst Day Cycle and why you keep repeating patterns

15:37 — Recap and resources for deeper healing

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