If they keep ghosting you, why are you still chasing them?

It’s not about the message.

It’s about your story.

For me, it goes back to being a kid—waiting on a mother who promised she’d stop drinking… and never did.

I learned early that words were cheap.

So now, as an adult, I watch actions.

Always actions.

That’s why I have non-negotiables around communication.

Not because I’m “too much”…

But because my trauma taught me what silence really feels like.

And here’s what most people miss:

You won’t stop getting triggered until you know what your needs ar