The Pain We Don’t Talk About: When Basic Needs Feel Unreachable

She couldn’t change a roll of toilet paper.

I starved myself for years—on purpose.

Not because we were lazy. Not because we didn’t know better.

Because we didn’t feel worthy of meeting our own needs.

That’s what codependency does.

It disconnects us from the most fundamental truth:

You deserve to take care of yourself.

In this powerful video, I share heartbreaking real stories—from my clients and my own life—that reveal how trauma teaches us to abandon our needs for love, validation, or safety.