How To Heal The Worst Day Cycle- Part 1

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How To Heal The Worst Day Cycle- Part 1

May 14, 2022

For centuries society has stigmatized, and science has incorrectly downplayed the importance of Emotional Authenticity. But unfortunately, these factors have resulted in humans developing an emotionally self-destructive survival process to absorb the childhood injuries we all experience from perfectly imperfect caregivers. I call this process The Worst Day Cycle.


What Creates The Worst Day Cycle?

For humans to survive, we must form physical and emotional bonds with other humans. Unfortunately, because of a lack of education about how to do this lovingly and that we are human and will make mistakes, we all experience emotional pain and injuries from our caregivers. Since science and society have held us back from evolving emotionally, the best we can do as a child in those moments is to relinquish our inherent power and authentic self. As a result, we develop a shame-based false persona to survive the emotional injuries we experience from our perfectly imperfect caregivers to forge a necessary connection.

The overwhelming emotional experience of childhood injury, loss of inherent power, and adoption of a false persona create a fear-based traumatic emotional chemical addiction in the brain and body of each child. This emotional addiction becomes a mostly subconscious shame-based compulsion to replay the unhealed childhood injuries. The result is that each adult’s relationship/s, career/s, and health outcome/s will mirror the original childhood emotional injury they have yet to heal. The individual does this to regain their lost power (they are now in control of doing it to themselves) and to let them know they need to heal the pain from the past so they can reclaim their authentic self. Sadly, the individual will deny their part because both society nor science have not made them aware of the role they are playing in creating their emotional misery.


Successfully conquering The Worst Day Cycle requires healing the shame and facing denial by developing Emotional Authenticity.


In doing so, the individual reclaims their authentic self by healing the pain from the past and discovering the ability to forgive their caregivers and themselves. The end result is the creation of a new self-empowering emotional chemical addiction that embraces those perfect imperfections. The resulting wisdom allows individuals to reach their full potential and operate in their destiny. Most importantly, even if their caregivers never participate in the healing, the individual achieves a deep connection and acceptance toward them. You can learn how The Worst Day Cycle is replaying in your life and how to overcome it here: Your Journey To Success!

Loving your perfect imperfections is a three-step process, and unfortunately, the first one is the most difficult!


Step One: Heal Your Self-Deception


Step one is to admit we have imperfections! We must become experts in our self-deception and how we deny and hide our imperfections from ourselves and others. We all carry shame and pain from our past, and many people can find this very difficult to admit. Studies show that we lie to ourselves 10-200 times daily. What keeps us from the life we want is our inability to acknowledge that our upbringing was not as perfect as we like to think it was. To be human is to be fallible; therefore, parents are not always to blame.  I believe that nearly every parent does what they feel is kind and loving. But, because society and science have not taught us Emotional Authenticity, parents are unaware that no matter how great they are as a parent, they will leave wounds in their children.

Most people believe placing any responsibility on our parents is unacceptable or disrespectful. That makes this a complicated truth to accept. Due to underlying shame and fear, any thought of challenging a parent will activate the inner child, who will be fearful of getting in trouble or losing their parents’ love. That is in part how we developed the false persona as a child. Our inability to accept that our parents injured us and left wounds that we replay throughout our adult lives against ourselves is self-deceptive.

My own struggle with denial

It’s an ongoing process to be able to face up to our self-deception. Recently I had to own up to a part of myself I had denied. Years ago, when I was going through a divorce, I lived in an apartment with a pool. My daughters just loved for me to swim underwater with them on my back. The problem was that no one had taught me about The Worst Day Cycle or Emotional Authenticity, so routinely, I would come up with excuses not to play this enjoyable game with them. Even worse, the reason was that I did not want to mess up my hair.

Why did I make it about my hair and other excuses? Well, because of my father. My father was beaten as a child and had four kids by the age of twenty-two. He went straight from being beaten by his father to becoming a dad himself. So, he had no idea how to connect with his children. How could he? I remember asking my dad to hang out with me. I’d watch his whole body tense up. He was unable to bring himself to connect. That unhealed pain transferred to me.

When my children wanted to connect, I embodied what I saw my father do. I relived what I was taught and what I experienced. Not because my father was bad but because my father was in pain. No one had taught him about The Worst Day Cycle or how to achieve Emotional Authenticity, so he was just surviving. That is true for us all. We are all just replaying the pain from the past and surviving.


Step Two: Learn to Forgive Yourself


Unfortunately, as a child, we are too underdeveloped to deal with our parent’s perfect imperfections. So, we developed responses that worked at the moment but were self-destructive long term. To overcome this, we will want to put a plan in place to accept our self-destructive perfect imperfections.

The first step is to stop beating ourselves when we notice ourselves talking and feeling pessimistic towards ourselves. We then replace them with new mantras. For example, ‘I am doing the best I can. I did the best I could with the information I had at the time. As I know better, I can do better, or as I know more, I can do more.’

This is why becoming an expert in conquering The Worst Day Cycle will help you see how you have been repeating the same behavior since childhood, and it is time to forgive yourself.


Step Three: Learn to love your perfect imperfections.


Laugh at them, love them! My hair is a perfect example of being able to accept, laugh, and love our imperfections. I often get disparaging comments that I should just shave it off because it’s barely there. I’m aware I have some mild dysmorphia. When I look in the mirror, I see tons of hair. But I am brought out of denial and into reality when I see a photo. Then, I realize I have very little, and their comments are entirely accurate. Dropping out of denial and self-deception allows me to laugh whenever I get negative comments.

That is the peace we get from Emotional Authenticity. When we are in reality, we can hear comments about our perfect imperfections. When I accept I am human and imperfect, I’m led to new ways to solve problems. This propels me out of the victim role by taking responsibility.


Initial steps to Emotional Authenticity


To help you start this journey, I have a masterclass, ‘Your Journey to Emotional Authenticity,’ and it’s completely FREE! This masterclass is at www.thegreatnessu.com. Additionally, I have created an excellent workbook, ‘How to keep our boundaries.” This is a simple cheat sheet to help you address your perfect imperfections. You can download this for free here: Resources.

Start your healing journey today by embracing Emotional Authenticity so you can learn to love and accept your perfect imperfections!

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1- My Book, Your Journey To Success
2- My Complete Emotional Authenticity Method
3- My Perfectly Imperfect Private Group
4- My Private Coaching


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